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Saying goodbye to relationships for now

I have decided to take a break from relationships. I am not totally giving up on love just taking a break. Relationships are hard, I do not care if you are gay, lesbian, bi or straight, relationships are hard period.
My family and friends often ask me, ‘what if you meet Mr Right?’. Mr Right can wait for a while, I have been looking for him and he has not shown up, so he should just chill and come back when I have decided that I am ready to date again.

But the funny thing is, that ever since I decided to be single, men are flocking to me like flies flock on a fly trap, so not fair. I want this break of mine to last for a year, so too bad for you Mr Right. The problem that I have with relationships is either I over commit, do not commit enough or I want to control or change the person or vice versa. I have never found a balance with my previous relationships.
I have been given all kinds of advice, you should give 100%, you should communicate more or you should be patient, etc, etc. blaahh, blaahh, blaahh, I am a grown woman, I have tried it all. And I am not doing this to find myself or to get to know myself better, I know who I am and I have found myself, therefore this is the best decision for me, for now, trust me I know.
I must confess I am a serial dater, I have to be in a relationship, therefore this decision is very hard for me, it is going to take a lot of self discipline. I keep on looking but something is always missing, but one thing that I do not do is go into a relationship with my eyes closed, I go in to it expecting disappointment. It always happens when I start to get comfortable in the relationship, then all hell breaks loose.
Some readers might be thinking that is that the problem?, please do not psychoanalyse me, stick to your day jobs, unless if you are a psychologist. But one day I am going to conquer love, and this might sound formal or military, but I do think it is the way love or a relationship should be handled.
By being disciplined, have a strategy, set goals, identify the enemy, never give up and failure is not an option. Therefore all is fair in love and war, I will wreak all havoc during my pursuit of true love.
The irony of this is, just as I was about to conclude this article, I got a call from an admirer asking me out on a date, its seems like the gods are testing me. They are probably saying “if she thinks being in a relationship is hard, wait until she tries being single”.
I will not succumb to temptation, I need to go read the Bible and remind myself how Jesus resisted temptation. It took a lot of will power to turn down a free meal. Yes people if someone invites me out for a date, I expect them to pay.
The countdown has began to my singlehood, wish me luck, and don’t worry I will keep you up to date with my progress. True love here I come.

About The Author

Following reverse listing, public can now acquire shareholding in Paratus Namibia


20 February 2020, Windhoek, Namibia: Paratus Namibia Holdings (PNH) was founded as Nimbus Infrastructure Limited (“Nimbus”), Namibia’s first Capital Pool Company listed on the Namibian Stock Exchange (“NSX”).

Although targeting an initial capital raising of N$300 million, Nimbus nonetheless managed to secure funding to the value of N$98 million through its CPC listing. With a mandate to invest in ICT infrastructure in sub-Sahara Africa, it concluded management agreements with financial partner Cirrus and technology partner, Paratus Telecommunications (Pty) Ltd (“Paratus Namibia”).

Paratus Namibia Managing Director, Andrew Hall

Its first investment was placed in Paratus Namibia, a fully licensed communications operator in Namibia under regulation of the Communications Regulatory Authority of Namibia (CRAN). Nimbus has since been able to increase its capital asset base to close to N$500 million over the past two years.

In order to streamline further investment and to avoid duplicating potential ICT projects in the market between Nimbus and Paratus Namibia, it was decided to consolidate the operations.

Publishing various circulars to shareholders, Nimbus took up a 100% shareholding stake in Paratus Namibia in 2019 and proceeded to apply to have its name changed to Paratus Namibia Holdings with a consolidated board structure to ensure streamlined operations between the capital holdings and the operational arm of the business.

This transaction was approved by the Competitions Commission as well as CRAN, following all the relevant regulatory approvals as well as the necessary requirements in terms of corporate governance structures.

Paratus Namibia has evolved as a fully comprehensive communications operator in Namibia and operates as the head office of the Paratus Group in Africa. Paratus has established a pan-African footprint with operations in six African countries, being: Angola, Botswana, Mozambique, Namibia, South Africa and Zambia.

The group has achieved many successes over the years of which more recently includes the building of the Trans-Kalahari Fibre (TKF) project, which connects from the West Africa Cable System (WACS) eastward through Namibia to Botswana and onward to Johannesburg. The TKF also extends northward through Zambia to connect to Dar es Salaam in Tanzania, which made Paratus the first operator to connect the west and east coast of Africa under one Autonomous System Number (ASN).

This means that Paratus is now “exporting” internet capacity to landlocked countries such as Zambia, Botswana, the DRC with more countries to be targeted, and through its extensive African network, Paratus is well-positioned to expand the network even further into emerging ICT territories.

PNH as a fully-listed entity on the NSX, is therefore now the 100% shareholder of Paratus Namibia thereby becoming a public company. PNH is ready to invest in the future of the ICT environment in Namibia. The public is therefore invited and welcome to acquire shares in Paratus Namibia Holdings by speaking to a local stockbroker registered with the NSX. The future is bright, and the opportunities are endless.