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On unrequited love – What I should have said

If you are anything like me, (which I’m sure you are not) than you’ve been in a couple a dozen one-sided love affairs (you haven’t) and you’ve received advice on the subject. It doesn’t matter whether he’s considered a jerk or God’s gift to women. Your friends (my girl friends) will give you what is supposed to be food for thought but they are really telling me what to do. Let’s breifly analyse these nuggets of wisdom. This is what I feel I should have said to my friends over the years when they said:
1.You need to move on, get over it.
For all the well-wishers who realise my unhealthy obsession with Mr. Unattainable, it is damaging to my mental health and grades to tell me to get over him. Thank you for that piece of knowledge, I just have one question: HOW?
He’s way out of my league and simply the best thing since sliced bread. I’m not that delusional, of course, I know he doesn’t know I exist! I’m not a glutton for punishment, I’ve been trying! I just do not know how!
A few suggestions as to how may do just that! Tell me, how do I fall out of love with him?
2. He’s not worthy of you
I love that you think so highly of me and I appreciate that you only want what’s best for me but honestly you saying, he is not good enough for me, is kind of insulting. Here’s what I’m hearing:
“You have no taste, your need to raise your standards and expectations of what you want in a guy, seriously. Why do you even like that loser?”
Thank you friend, I feel so much better about my self now. Really it’s great that you’ve shown me the class of people I should have unrequited feelings for, I’m so grateful. You know everything there is to know about him. He’s as one dimensional as you make him out to be.

You are forgetting that I like him, I really do. And here’s what sucks, he doesn’t like me.
3. Get to know him.
How do I do that? He doesn’t even know I am alive, we are not even friends on Facebook. Plus, stalking his social media accounts lets me know all I need to know. One tiny question: how does my getting more information about him get me out of this unrequited situation? Unless you are hoping I find some serious personalty defect that is so repulsive I’ll be cured of this ailment.
Have you met me? I’m a train wreck when it comes to being subtle, so befriending him is firstly, a scary thought and secondly, probably not going to work out. I’ll just stick to the version of him I’ve created in my head, yeah…
4. You should only like people who like you.
A little too late for that isn’t it? When I’m done swooning over this guy, I’ll keep on doing just that. I’ll be forever alone because no nobody will ever love me. I’ll just head to the SPCA now, I need 99 cats and a dog.
5. You need to accept that he’s just not into you.
I know he’s not into me. Hence the word “unrequited” What do you want from me? I can’t give up my fantasies about marrying him and living in the burbs with 2.5 kids and a dog named Lucky. Please don’t take that away from me too, it is the only thing about him I have.
6. Show him you like him
Riiight, because I’m such an expert on flirting and attracting guys. Forget the fact that I’ve been pining for him for months, do you not think I’ve tried?
Remember that one time at church I went up to him and all I could say was hello. I just stood there. Yeah, why would I put myself through that again?

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Following reverse listing, public can now acquire shareholding in Paratus Namibia


20 February 2020, Windhoek, Namibia: Paratus Namibia Holdings (PNH) was founded as Nimbus Infrastructure Limited (“Nimbus”), Namibia’s first Capital Pool Company listed on the Namibian Stock Exchange (“NSX”).

Although targeting an initial capital raising of N$300 million, Nimbus nonetheless managed to secure funding to the value of N$98 million through its CPC listing. With a mandate to invest in ICT infrastructure in sub-Sahara Africa, it concluded management agreements with financial partner Cirrus and technology partner, Paratus Telecommunications (Pty) Ltd (“Paratus Namibia”).

Paratus Namibia Managing Director, Andrew Hall

Its first investment was placed in Paratus Namibia, a fully licensed communications operator in Namibia under regulation of the Communications Regulatory Authority of Namibia (CRAN). Nimbus has since been able to increase its capital asset base to close to N$500 million over the past two years.

In order to streamline further investment and to avoid duplicating potential ICT projects in the market between Nimbus and Paratus Namibia, it was decided to consolidate the operations.

Publishing various circulars to shareholders, Nimbus took up a 100% shareholding stake in Paratus Namibia in 2019 and proceeded to apply to have its name changed to Paratus Namibia Holdings with a consolidated board structure to ensure streamlined operations between the capital holdings and the operational arm of the business.

This transaction was approved by the Competitions Commission as well as CRAN, following all the relevant regulatory approvals as well as the necessary requirements in terms of corporate governance structures.

Paratus Namibia has evolved as a fully comprehensive communications operator in Namibia and operates as the head office of the Paratus Group in Africa. Paratus has established a pan-African footprint with operations in six African countries, being: Angola, Botswana, Mozambique, Namibia, South Africa and Zambia.

The group has achieved many successes over the years of which more recently includes the building of the Trans-Kalahari Fibre (TKF) project, which connects from the West Africa Cable System (WACS) eastward through Namibia to Botswana and onward to Johannesburg. The TKF also extends northward through Zambia to connect to Dar es Salaam in Tanzania, which made Paratus the first operator to connect the west and east coast of Africa under one Autonomous System Number (ASN).

This means that Paratus is now “exporting” internet capacity to landlocked countries such as Zambia, Botswana, the DRC with more countries to be targeted, and through its extensive African network, Paratus is well-positioned to expand the network even further into emerging ICT territories.

PNH as a fully-listed entity on the NSX, is therefore now the 100% shareholder of Paratus Namibia thereby becoming a public company. PNH is ready to invest in the future of the ICT environment in Namibia. The public is therefore invited and welcome to acquire shares in Paratus Namibia Holdings by speaking to a local stockbroker registered with the NSX. The future is bright, and the opportunities are endless.