This week in the Khuta -Love is not death
To love someone to death means to have strong affection for that person but some men seem to have misunderstood this expression and literally love their women to death by brutally killing them.
In recent months, the country has been rocked by a number of passion killings; young women are being killed for either ending a relationship or rejecting a man’s advances. Earlier this week, another incident of passion killing was reported when a man in Oshakati killed his ex girlfriend with a panga before he unsuccessfully tried to commit suicide.
Love is not supposed to hurt, but what is love then? This is one of the most difficult questions for humankind.
According to 1 Corinthians 13:4 to 8, love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
While 1 John 4:8 says that anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. If love comes from goodness, why are these men killing the women they claim to love in such brutal and cold blooded manner.
Young Namibian women are being robbed of their lives by the men that are supposed to be protecting them. These men are being selfish and have no respect for other people’s lives. They are heartless, pure evil and no better than animals in the wild.
When men cheat on women, it is acceptable, even to society at large but when a woman does the same, she is labelled a prostitute or even killed or slaughtered like an animal. Who should we blame for the deaths of these innocent women? Do we blame the society for saying it’s okay for men to cheat and have more than one girlfriend or do we blame the women for giving men false hope and then breaking their hearts?
Some men are defending their fellow male counterparts by accusing women of using them to pay their school fees, buy nice clothes, jewellery, taking them on romantic getaways, giving them all the wrong signals before dumping them for someone else. But while these same men spend a lot of money on women does that justify taking someone’s life? Is money more important than someone’s life? Why not ask the woman to pay you back whatever you spent on her instead of choking her to death.
It is time for Namibian men to put on their big boy pants and learn to cope with disappointment and rejection because it is part of life.
I think it is time for men to stop acting all macho and learn to deal with their feelings and seek assistance during difficult times like break ups. Why should families suffer because one person could not deal with his feelings? If you feel you cannot live without someone, why not do yourself a favour and take your own life? The worst thing for any parent is to bury a child. Disappointment is part of life, stop being a coward.