Guest Contributor | Apr 21, 2017 | 0
Mothers, own up!
When a woman becomes pregnant, it is her responsibility to provide a safe and secure environment while her baby grows. This responsibility continues once she becomes a mother, whether it is ensuring her child has a roof over its head to keeping monsters away at night and everything in between.
Providing your child with a safe and secure environment protects them from abuse and harm as well as helps boost their child’s mental and emotional development. Provide a safe, healthy environment for children by reducing risks and stress as well as keeping an eye out on children.
A few weeks back a child was run over by a passing car while the mother was busy in a deep conversation with a friend talking about whatever so who is to blame herein this case? Obviously the mother is to blame because she neglected the child’s security. Unfortunately the innocent child is no more. So with that been said it makes me think about this; that being a mom means more than having given birth to a child.
It is loving and knowing a soul before you even see it. It is carrying for a life completely dependent on you for survival. It is giving air to the lungs that grew within you, and sight to the eyes that will never see you as anything but mommy. It is sleepless nights, it is nursing scratches and scrapes, it is being stern and protective. It is teaching them to talk, to walk and to eventually run. It is learning to hand your child to a stranger to let them teach what you cannot at times. It is bracing them for a fall, and dusting them off after they do. It is seeing them cry and not knowing how to fix it, so you sit on the floor and hold them cry and cry right along beside them. Yep, might sound funny but it is all true. It is teaching them that they are smart, capable, funny and giving them the security to do great things. It is building their self-esteem, supporting their dreams and loving them unconditionally. It is letting them fail and teaching them how to get back up. It is going without so that they do not have to and being OK with it.
It is never easy being a mother but it is a gift that is unimaginable to any woman who does not have a child in their life. One of my in-law’s was told by the doctor that she could not bear a child in her marriage and she was heartbroken but after 10 years she gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby boy.
Now imagine how she felt at that time – she cried tears of joy. So being a mother is priceless. Being a mother is a connection that is unmatched and insurmountable in any form or other relationship. It is a love that grows continually, a love that always wants more and better but believe me there are some children that gets mistreated by their own mothers that they do not even know what a mother’s love feels like… truth be told. And there are mothers that are being terrified that she cannot prevent pain, injustice, heartbreak and at times even death. Being a mother is laughing at jokes that are not even funny but the way their child says it makes it hilarious. It is listening to stories that go on and on without a point. It is always being available for the “mommy watch me!” yells and “mommy, I need this!” It is a beautiful feeling being a mother and even more beautiful hearing them calling you “Mommy”.
So please, for those mothers that are misusing their motherhood, own up to your responsibility and do it right from the beginning and if you have not yet, it is never too late. Remember; being a mother is a blessing, a gift, a relationship that never ends and a love that never dies. It is the best thing one can ever be and the greatest love one can ever experience.