A forgiving heart
Elders often say forgive whole heartedly and you shall have peace in your heart and one should never hold grudges to progress in life.
I have come to terms with forgiving, which is defined or means to let go of the resentment, grudge or pain. Forgiveness is never easy that is why in some cases we may say I will forgive but will never forget.
Sometimes you get so hurt by someone, may it be at work, family or in personal life. You end up asking yourself questions you cannot get answers from straight away.
There was this time that I got disappointed by someone I looked up to, I was so hurt I could not help but question myself all sorts of silly questions. I even started blaming myself for allowing the pain I was going through but then I realised this had to stop. I cannot go on living like a zombie. I should forgive and forget by all means. As I learned to forgive, the energy which was going into unhappy thought and feelings inside me got liberated and flew into creating the life I wanted rather than limiting myself or creating more suffering for myself.
Whatever pain you went through, if you have not forgiven then a part of your inner energy is trapped in resentment, anger or suffering of some kind. And this trapped energy will limit you.
It is like trying to ride a bicycle with the brakes partly gripping the tyres. This actually slows you down, frustrates you and makes it difficult to move forward. I also learned to forgive myself, which is vitally important too because when you forgive, you become a better person. You become more open to success in whatever ways are meaningful to you. As you learn to forgive, what seemed impossible not only becomes possible, but can even become easily achievable. Somebody once told me that learning to forgive can only help you; it cannot hurt you. Whether you need to forgive others, or need to forgive yourself, doing so sets you free from the past and enables you to fulfil your true potential.
Forgiveness also allows you to break free from limiting beliefs and attitudes. It frees up your mental and emotional energies so that you can apply them to creating a better life. And not only that, it also helps you achieve even your most practical and immediate goals. The choices you make and the things that you believe are possible will all be influenced by the ways you have not forgiven.
If you do not want to learn to forgive to benefit yourself; then learn to forgive so you can benefit others. As you learn to forgive you benefit everyone you are in contact with. Your thinking will be clearer and more positive than before. You will naturally and easily become kinder, more generous and more caring of others- without having to struggle to achieve this.
Forgiveness set me free. As I had learned to forgive, abilities which have been tormenting me emerged and I discovered myself to be a much stronger and more capable person than I previously imagined.
In a nut shell, life is now more pleasant and a lot more enjoyable and like the saying goes; happy coincides will occur where you meet just the right person at just right time.