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Emotional abuse: the silent killer

The term feminist would be too harsh a word to describe me, but I am passionate about women’s issues. I believe no woman must ever live in fear or in an endless cycle of pain. If playing God was permissible, I would advocate the death penalty for all sexual predators and at least ten years in prison for physical abusers.

There is a form of abuse that goes without punishment but often opens doors for all other forms of abuse and that specific form is emotional abuse, which is my biggest concern.
Emotional abuse has to be the most condoned form of abuse in the world because the effects are not visible – well not immediately and the perpetrators are socio-paths which means they are manipulative and bi-polar. It is common in many forms of relationships but most common among people who are romantically involved. Most often the victims have no evidence and are unaware that it is a form of abuse, thus it becomes more common.
This form of abuse can be likened to a silent killer as it is somewhat like a condition that may progress to very advanced stages before manifesting itself clinically.
I found two inter linked trends on Twitter, #WhyIStayed and #WhyILeft which showed that the leading cause of people staying in abusive situations is thinking he will change. In most cases they never do. The next stage is, thinking you deserve to be abused and the last and worst, thinking no one will ever love you and he is all you have.
First and foremost, people do not change unless they want to and even then it is a long and painful process. Take a minute and think of all the times you promised yourself you would change, how long did that take you? Listen, we do not have the power to change anyone and staying in an abusive situation will only change us and break our self esteem to the point of feeling like we are worthless.
If you are in a relationship which constantly makes you feel like you are not good enough and which is changing you into something you are not, you really need to think about it. Because, the minute you feel worthless, you open yourself up to any other form of abuse and a cage is created, which is difficult to break out of. Friends around you can try to help, but the signs are always there, it is just that one tends or chooses to turn a blind eye on them as the choice to ignore is always easier.
A lot of times we are the first to call out abuse in others yet we are in worse situations, victims will always think it is normal or will concede abuse because they think everyone else is in the same situation.
Make a choice to be happy, regardless of what the rest of the world is going through, guard your heart and put yourself first- believe it or not, you are worth it!

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Following reverse listing, public can now acquire shareholding in Paratus Namibia


20 February 2020, Windhoek, Namibia: Paratus Namibia Holdings (PNH) was founded as Nimbus Infrastructure Limited (“Nimbus”), Namibia’s first Capital Pool Company listed on the Namibian Stock Exchange (“NSX”).

Although targeting an initial capital raising of N$300 million, Nimbus nonetheless managed to secure funding to the value of N$98 million through its CPC listing. With a mandate to invest in ICT infrastructure in sub-Sahara Africa, it concluded management agreements with financial partner Cirrus and technology partner, Paratus Telecommunications (Pty) Ltd (“Paratus Namibia”).

Paratus Namibia Managing Director, Andrew Hall

Its first investment was placed in Paratus Namibia, a fully licensed communications operator in Namibia under regulation of the Communications Regulatory Authority of Namibia (CRAN). Nimbus has since been able to increase its capital asset base to close to N$500 million over the past two years.

In order to streamline further investment and to avoid duplicating potential ICT projects in the market between Nimbus and Paratus Namibia, it was decided to consolidate the operations.

Publishing various circulars to shareholders, Nimbus took up a 100% shareholding stake in Paratus Namibia in 2019 and proceeded to apply to have its name changed to Paratus Namibia Holdings with a consolidated board structure to ensure streamlined operations between the capital holdings and the operational arm of the business.

This transaction was approved by the Competitions Commission as well as CRAN, following all the relevant regulatory approvals as well as the necessary requirements in terms of corporate governance structures.

Paratus Namibia has evolved as a fully comprehensive communications operator in Namibia and operates as the head office of the Paratus Group in Africa. Paratus has established a pan-African footprint with operations in six African countries, being: Angola, Botswana, Mozambique, Namibia, South Africa and Zambia.

The group has achieved many successes over the years of which more recently includes the building of the Trans-Kalahari Fibre (TKF) project, which connects from the West Africa Cable System (WACS) eastward through Namibia to Botswana and onward to Johannesburg. The TKF also extends northward through Zambia to connect to Dar es Salaam in Tanzania, which made Paratus the first operator to connect the west and east coast of Africa under one Autonomous System Number (ASN).

This means that Paratus is now “exporting” internet capacity to landlocked countries such as Zambia, Botswana, the DRC with more countries to be targeted, and through its extensive African network, Paratus is well-positioned to expand the network even further into emerging ICT territories.

PNH as a fully-listed entity on the NSX, is therefore now the 100% shareholder of Paratus Namibia thereby becoming a public company. PNH is ready to invest in the future of the ICT environment in Namibia. The public is therefore invited and welcome to acquire shares in Paratus Namibia Holdings by speaking to a local stockbroker registered with the NSX. The future is bright, and the opportunities are endless.