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Whats love got to do with it?

After reading about a 40 year old American kindergarten teacher, Yasmin Eleby, whom, after several years of being alone decided to marry herself on her 40th birthday, I questioned the “I am searching for love and waiting for love to find me” notion.
I have racked my brain in the hope of finding if her way of thinking makes sense but failed to find any sense in one marrying herself. Allow me to be a bit harsh and somewhat critical, lets say two months from now, Miss or Mrs Eleby (not sure how to address her) finds love and starts dating, will she be cheating on herself?

And if that relationship develops and they decide to get married, will she have to divorce herself first? Yes there are so many confusing questions in my head. Will she fill in her name on the spouse’s space on a form? Goodness me! Will this woman tell her children that she is both their mother and father if she decides to adopt children? Sigh! All these questions are like ringing alarms in my head giving me such a migraine.
Now some of you might ask why I am bothered by this woman’s act of love for herself, others will call me names and say I just don’t understand how things work in America. Hello! America is on planet earth and last time I checked on earth we marry fellow men and women and not ourselves no matter how desperate our situation gets.
I am so sorry but this does not in the least make any sense to me, so is this woman sentencing herself to a lifetime of masturbation? In her defence she said she is celebrating self love and respect, yes that may be how she feels but this does not stop her from seeming desperate and so HOPELESS, oh yes she is hopeless. She has lost all hope in finding that one person to spend the rest of her life with and even in her faith in God. The bible says not to judge in order not to be judged but please do allow me to be the judge and jury on this one, this act is just crazy.
Does what she did even qualify to be called a marriage? Again I will refer to the signing of documentation, is it just her name on the dotted lines of the marriage certificate? Others may call this an act of bravery, others may admire her strength but it still does not make any sense or make it right, because at the end of the day she is insulting the sanctity of marriage and the one who created it.
She says she is so happy but anyone with logic will agree with me when I say our dear sister is still lonely as ever despite being married to herself. In my opinion she gave up too soon, it seems she was so obsessed with the idea of marriage that she woke up one day, bought a dress, some flowers, invited friends and families and said, ‘I am marrying myself.’
My advice to this troubled soul is to stop searching for Mr right in all the wrong places and practise a little patience. She must not let something this ridiculous turn her into something she is not, because I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt and say she is not insane so why subject herself to a lifetime of sleeping alone? Of not having someone to share her thoughts with and just to hold her tight. Is she going to hug herself throughout her life when there is a possible hunky man to wrap her in his strong arms?
I may be African but that does not mean that my way of reasoning is different from those in America, nothing can make this seem any logical, this is just another case of frustration turning into acceptance and extreme low self esteem.
My final words to Miss/Mrs Eleby are, please divorce yourself, Mr right is still searching for you, it is never too late to find love even if you are 90 love knows no bounds.

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Following reverse listing, public can now acquire shareholding in Paratus Namibia


20 February 2020, Windhoek, Namibia: Paratus Namibia Holdings (PNH) was founded as Nimbus Infrastructure Limited (“Nimbus”), Namibia’s first Capital Pool Company listed on the Namibian Stock Exchange (“NSX”).

Although targeting an initial capital raising of N$300 million, Nimbus nonetheless managed to secure funding to the value of N$98 million through its CPC listing. With a mandate to invest in ICT infrastructure in sub-Sahara Africa, it concluded management agreements with financial partner Cirrus and technology partner, Paratus Telecommunications (Pty) Ltd (“Paratus Namibia”).

Paratus Namibia Managing Director, Andrew Hall

Its first investment was placed in Paratus Namibia, a fully licensed communications operator in Namibia under regulation of the Communications Regulatory Authority of Namibia (CRAN). Nimbus has since been able to increase its capital asset base to close to N$500 million over the past two years.

In order to streamline further investment and to avoid duplicating potential ICT projects in the market between Nimbus and Paratus Namibia, it was decided to consolidate the operations.

Publishing various circulars to shareholders, Nimbus took up a 100% shareholding stake in Paratus Namibia in 2019 and proceeded to apply to have its name changed to Paratus Namibia Holdings with a consolidated board structure to ensure streamlined operations between the capital holdings and the operational arm of the business.

This transaction was approved by the Competitions Commission as well as CRAN, following all the relevant regulatory approvals as well as the necessary requirements in terms of corporate governance structures.

Paratus Namibia has evolved as a fully comprehensive communications operator in Namibia and operates as the head office of the Paratus Group in Africa. Paratus has established a pan-African footprint with operations in six African countries, being: Angola, Botswana, Mozambique, Namibia, South Africa and Zambia.

The group has achieved many successes over the years of which more recently includes the building of the Trans-Kalahari Fibre (TKF) project, which connects from the West Africa Cable System (WACS) eastward through Namibia to Botswana and onward to Johannesburg. The TKF also extends northward through Zambia to connect to Dar es Salaam in Tanzania, which made Paratus the first operator to connect the west and east coast of Africa under one Autonomous System Number (ASN).

This means that Paratus is now “exporting” internet capacity to landlocked countries such as Zambia, Botswana, the DRC with more countries to be targeted, and through its extensive African network, Paratus is well-positioned to expand the network even further into emerging ICT territories.

PNH as a fully-listed entity on the NSX, is therefore now the 100% shareholder of Paratus Namibia thereby becoming a public company. PNH is ready to invest in the future of the ICT environment in Namibia. The public is therefore invited and welcome to acquire shares in Paratus Namibia Holdings by speaking to a local stockbroker registered with the NSX. The future is bright, and the opportunities are endless.